Random Observation 1

One of the most common questions you would have heard in your lifetime would be "How Are You?". I am not talking about just any 'how are you' today, it is about this one :

I observed this when one of my friends who lives in US updated her FB status,"Flying to India, with a very heavy heart". I didn't dare to ask her the reason:( specially on a public platform. But i observed a couple of random people(who i know are merely in her friendlist because they happen to be in the same school as hers and are far from being FRIENDS), asking her stupid questions right there like "Hope u r fine.. but what exactly hapened?".Now why would she write " with a very heavy heart" if ALL WAS OK !  I felt really sorry looking at people's mindset :(. It made me check my own timeline recalling what all people say to me and how much they really mean it !

When you are feeling low and update a sad status on FB(Isnt that wot u do too? :D),lots of people would ask,"How are you?What happened?",1/100 people are genuinely concerned for your well being, the rest are only curious !

So here goes my prayer for today,

"Dear Allah, please help me, to be able to differentiate between people who are sincerely my well wishers from those who merely show concern to spice up their own life :P"

Smiles,
Saniya :)

PS : Have you heard a lil uncommon version of the song Raabta ?..Pheli thi siyaah raatein .. must listen :)

BoooooHoooooHooooo :((

All of us have cried in our lives for one reason or the other.The reasons are varied though.I was wondering possibly how many types of tears there can be :

1)I remember reading in my birth certificate,"Cried soon after birth."Now,I don't remember why did i cry then,but since i was a novice and had no ideas about the rules of the game...i would term these the "Genuine Tears." :D

2)With the change of calendar,I learnt that whenever I felt hungry or simply wanted Momma's attention,I could shed a tear or two and most importantly make loud noises.Mumma Immediately came to my rescue.These were the "Attention-seeker Tears."

3)At times,it did happen that I wasn't hungry,rather i had pain in my tummy but mom misunderstood me and since i couldnt tell her that,I simply kept on crying helplessly....The "Helpless Tears."

4)As the years progressed,I cried when i wanted chocolates,icecreams or just one more mango.Out came the "Greedy tears."


5)At times while playing I bruised my hand and although it didnt hurt as much(ssshhh!!),I cried because mom's sympathy always felt great...the "Sympathy Tears."


6)Since i was always among the toppers of the class(Allhamdolilah),at times when i dint score that well,tears automatically rolled out.The "Ambitious Tears."


7)Ok,enough about me.Have you seen those crocodile tears shed by the vamps of TV Soaps?Yeah these are the "K-Tears" dedicated to...well you know who ;).


8)The next category is termed the "Maachis Tears"(which fail to come out) in the memory of the song "Pani pani re...khaare paani re".


9)A foriegn particle comes flying from nowhere and sticks to your eye,immediately a drop of salty water comes out...the "Emotionless Tear."


10)You must have heard about tears of joy(like the ones those beautiful sleek ladies shed after winning the "Miss World" title),lets call them the "Blissful tears."


11)You look at a handicapped person or a small hungry child walking barefoot in scorching heat or even a dog being badly beaten up by the kids in the street and not just your eyes but your heart cries as well....The "Humble Heart Tears."


12)People are fond of crying in movies..may it be the death of the hero's friend trying to save him or the separation of two families (who earlier believed in "United we stand divided we fall")or the heroine being diagnosed with a fatal disease(though later it is proven that she is all right and the reports were manipulated by her evil uncle :p).Phew !! These are the "Dramatic Tears."


13)You cry when someone who you trusted more than yourself breaks your trust...the "Agonizing Tears."


14)When a bride cries on her wedding day,her heart has a mixture of feelings, she's sad to depart from her family,she's hopeful for her future life and she's scared in the heart of hearts because she has to prove herself as a wife,as a daughter in law,as a sister in law,as a mother and lots more.I donno what to call them but "Jumbled Tears."


15)Ever felt afraid ?Of the dark?Of tomorrow?Of the unknown and even the known?Even fear makes one cry..the "Frightful Tears."


16)Ok,there's one more category...the "OnionTears" which i need not explain.

I'm sure i haven't covered even 10% of the reasons.Your views,suggestions,experiences,comments are always welcome :)

.....And...what makes U feel alive ?

Hmmm.........How sweeet is that :) ? How touching !!! Some things need not be "explained" so I'll keep this short...."You can live without something if you have someone to live for." :)

Speechless !!!

There are times when you just cant stop smiling and there are times when you just cant stop those tiny warm droplets from wetting your cheeks ! There are moments you enjoy and then forget forever similarly there are instances when you feel bad and then forget that incident forever.There are people you meet for a reason and for a season,they make you laugh,they make you smile,they make you frown.

Life in nothing but a collection of these moments.It is nothing but accumulation of these very memories.One of my favorite quotes goes like this.."Life isnt about the number of breaths you take but it is about the number of moments that take your breath away."In this respect i suppose "Smiles And Tears" would make the best couple.They meet rarely,but when they meet it becomes the most gorgeous moment of all !!!And these are the moments which you remember forever....these are the moments whose fragrance makes your life beautiful,add a zesty flavor to it.These are the moments that enlighten your life even in the darkest of phases !!

A promise....

I found this image somewhere and liked it soo much(look at those beautiful lines written and im sure you'll agree) dat i thought it would be unfair to not share it with you ! Though i wonder being so stupidly emotional and sensitive is one's strength or weakness?

How would the world be without promises,without hopes,without care,without concern,without love,without sympathy,without empathy,without blessings,without forgiveness,without kindness and also without hatred,without ignorance,without curses,without jealousy,without evil,without selfishness,without liars,without insensitivity !!!

Why does every coin i come across has two sides--a good and a bad one...and they are so perfectly balanced that it becomes extremely difficult for me to decide and it leaves me all the more confused in the end.Do truth and goodness always triumph?Can it be true that "Bad is the new Good" is only a myth and not a reality of the 21st century ???

What matters ? ? ?

"Inside myself is a place where I live all
alone.....unable to smile,unable to cry"

Too often we fail to understand or perhaps tend to underestimate the power of smallest of gestures.A touch,a smile,an honest compliment,a kind word,a listening ear,a simple message to let someone know that you care,remembering to wish someone at 12 midnight on his b'day or a simple sms to wish someone good luck for an exam and many more of such things might take only a minute from your life....but for someone else it might mean a lot of smiles for a long time.

Dropping by to ask your friend's grandma's health,giving your five year old cousin a colorful hand-made card,complementing him for a small drawing of the first mango he made and got a "good" from his teacher,presenting your mom a bouquet of flowers for no reason at all(even if they are a bunch of bougainvillea you picked from a nearby garden :D),giving a surprise gift to a dear friend or just cleaning your dad's car for him once in a while,will make these people very special and the look on their faces will make even You feel special !

In each one of us resides a kid,a little princess who wants to be spoilt,taken care of,being treated specially.All of us want to be "someone special" for our "someone specials".We want to be able to show our fondest dreams,our secret wishes to someone,to be able to murmur quietly in someone's ear and share a giggle,we want to be able to act stupid with someone,to have the freedom to just be ourselves,to be assured that we are understood and respected moreso and not misunderstood rather.

At times we even want to cry with someone....to have one and lend one shoulder to cry on,to be considered worthy enough to share someone's pain,to remember and be remembered in not just joys but more importantly(because it is all the more difficult) in sorrows.We want our slience ..more than words to be understood.We want to feel,see and show warmth through eyes,words and our touch.We can afford to live without something if we have somone to live for.All this requires a lot of courage and a lot of trust.Our little acts of care can give someone a reason to live,a reason to smile,a reason to hope,a reason to believe that life is worthwhile.A promise to a lonely & tired soul...that you'd be there for him no matter what,can give him enough courage to fight against all odds.But remember....make only those promises which you can keep,say only those words which you actually mean.Giving and then taking away hope from someone is a damage beyond repair !!!

Let me share with you an SMS that i got today morning which actually made me think about these small things.......

"Sometimes,smallest of things go straight 2 d heart ...

* A smile from a stranger when you are lost in a crowd.

* An old friend calling from a distant land just to say "I miss U".

* The touch of a mother's hand on your brow when you are unable to sleep.

* A message from a friend asking whats wrong when you thought no1 cud notice.

* A hand on your shoulder when it feels like d world is against you.

* An unexpected hug from a dearest friend when you are feeling low.

* The presence of someone who has the power to make you laugh when you dont even feel like smiling.

Sometimes it's d tiniest of things which make difficult times easy."

The Walls Talk !!!!

You dont always need "words" to be able to communicate,silence can speak more strongly,loudly and clearly than the spoken word.It can create storms and also can calm them down.It is consent.....and it is denial.At times it takes courage to be silent and sometimes it is an act of cowardice to remain quiet.Silence is "comfortable" between two people who understand each other well and equally "uncomfortable" when misunderstandings exist.Absence of the right words at the appropriate time is silence too.Just as leaving things unsaid when in rage at a tempting moment is important.....so is saying a caring word at the deserving moment is significant too.At times you regret speech....similarly there are times when you regret silence.The real tragedy is when silence is misunderstood....but then...words can never do things which certain silences can !!!

The Silence in my words....The unasked,the unheard,the un-realised questions...Force me to move towards a strange direction....At its own pace,in its own style,on its own path...Life moves ! What is to gain and what is to lose? Deprived of feelings,I feel numb.Perhaps at times u gotta behave dumb?U'll feel better only if you try....dont just sit,frown and cry.On a lonely road when you take a walk,thank God that atleast the walls talk !!!

You & Time !!!

Time ! The corrector when our judgments err !

Time ! The healer when ever reasons fail !

Time ! The longest distance between two places !

Time ! The cradle of hope !

Time ! The cruelest teacher !(1st she takes d test n then teaches the lesson :X)

Time ! The dressmaker specialising in alterations !

Time ! The only thief we cant get justice against !

Time ! The physician which heals every grief !

Time ! The justice that examines all offenders !

"Time" is truely a winner at multi-tasking.It plays all the roles assigned to it with so much ease,expertise and efficiency.It may be free but it is priceless!It flies like a bird amd it crawls like a snail.The duration of a minute is sooo relative.How long a minute is depends on which side of the bathroom you're on :D or perhaps which side of the table you're on in an interview.
The same time makes one person a winner but the other one a loser too.Times gives hope...but it kills hope too.Time gives strength....but it instills fear too.Time gives twinkles to a few and wrinkles to others.Times makes some and breaks some.Time discovers the truth...reveals the unseen.It is just that most of us arent brave enough to face and accept the reality.Time is the only coin of life.It introduces us to the practicalities of life.It may be very cliche but it is equally true that "Time waits for none".Flow with the flow,move on,dont wait,dont stop,keep up wid the pace.You have not one but many roles to play simultaneously.

A friend......a foe . A writer......a reader. A speaker......a listener. A leader........a follower. A successor.......a predecessor. An owner.......a buyer. A winner......a loser. A somone to someone,an anyone to anyone. He is none other than YOU.All at the same time..So,play the roles of the villian and the hero with equal enthusiasm.Let God do justice,He's there to do just that.Dont do anything that hurts someone but most importantly dont hurt yourself!!!It is ok to be selfish at times."Survival of the fittest"(and smartest)applies even today!!!

Just a thought...

Laughter and Tears.

Thrills and Spills.

Rain and Sunshine.

Liberty and Constraints.

Good and Bad.

Happy and Sad.

Don't these words sum up life?They say every dog has his day.Each one of us gets his share of smiles,sooner or later.It is just that we do not acknowledge this fact.We only complain about our sorrows,simply weep over our pains and forget to thank God for the numerous times he does small and big things for us EACH day.So,when God gives you a reason to be happy,welcome life with wide open arms.Don't spoil the moment thinking about the sad times,the other not-so-right things in your life and about what could-have-happend.Perhaps when God takes away good things from us,He merely empties our hands to receive something even better.Never doubt His intentions.

After all.....If it were not for tears,how would we realise the importance of smiles;if it were not for an empty stomach how would we truely savour a lavish feast;if it were not for pains how would we know the value of a caring touch.
So,don't think too much,live life and relish its inventive twists ....before it MOVES ON.

My Dilemma ...

"LOVE"...this four letter has always stunned us all. What exactly is love ?? When can you say that you really are in love? Why is a certain person so special? These are some of the most frequently asked questions…whose perfect answers are still to be discovered…. Everyone has different views about this very special feeling…but all agree that life is beautiful when one is in love, It’s a thought that you think and want to keep thinking forever.
Let me tell you today what I think "love" is all about! You may completely disagree with me because I don’t know what are your priorities in life & what kind of a person you are and what you expect “THE ONE” in your life to be and I have no rights or intentions to interfere in or comment on your personal life! So shall I start??????? Ok here it comes.............
Love is when your happiness is not pleasing until you share it with the person & your sorrows don’t lessen until that person pacifies you( I know I know you have heard that atleast a 100 times....but its very true buddy...just think about it once more)! It is, when you two sit together for hours without saying a word & feeling sure that it was the best time of your lifetime! It is, when you see in your beloved’s eyes & don’t just read "kiss me"… but such care and affection that gives you such a tender feeling that you can wait your entire life for that one look!
It is when you start missing the person just one second after he’s gone, when you fear losing him because you CANNOT IMAGINE your life without him, when you are ready to change and pain yourself for a simple smile on his face! It is, when you laugh when he laughs and cry when he cries (and that’s not a typical Hindi film dialogue, people tell me that it’s a fact and there’s nothing more gratifying than that), when your heart beats increase on hearing his voice(no hindi dialogue again)... when, even his one look changes the world for you! It is when you care and want to share!
When you remember and care about those small things he does like annoying you on little things(only to be able to say sorry to you with that “puppy-dog-innocent-look” in his eyes and see you showing some attitude because remember girls guys like to chase!! *winks*) .The way he remembers each and every word you say to him(and vice-versa) & feeling sure that he really cares and you matter the most in his life!
It is when he looks cute and sweet for the most stupid things he does.....the way he surprises you and makes you laugh(often at times when u even don’t feel like smiling) and the way he treats you simply like a princess for whatever you are(don’t forget to “reward” him for this.....and hey you reader stop reading between the lines :p )!! The way you can feel the concern for him, the warmth that he brings along with his presence, the way you hear his heart beats even when he is very far away, the way you feel his soft touch without him actually even coming near you, and the smiles that he spreads across your face…even when he is miles away!! When everyone around you feels a sudden change….. a spontaneous glitter on your face,a twinkle in your eye…when you are talking to him or when he’s around!! The way he tells you every day how important you are in his life and how much your smiles and your happiness mean to him(again...dont forget to “respond” because it’s mostly a give and take process)!!
The way you miss him in every happiness of your life!! The way everything gets more beautiful after the settlement of a fierce fight!! The way you understand him or even just try to understand him. …When he says that he feels like changing the world when he sees tears in your eyes… when he wakes you up at 3 in the night just to say that you are an integral part of his life and he can’t imagine his life without you… you feeling sure that each and every word he tells you is true and straight from his heart… because in the heart of hearts you have the same feelings inside you…When you can feel a special warmth for you in his eyes, in his voice, infact in everything he does…When his fondest dream is in your eyes too…when u feel that he’s the reason for your existence in the world…… so basically the list goes on ……………
It’s rightly said that it’s better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all…. I m sure it’s a wonderful feeling…though I have never been in love really…. because I m very confused about this very special characteristic of human beings…or may be I don’t know whether I really am in love…or would I ever be…but if it’s such a wonderful feeling as people say it is…I would definitely love to be in love!!!!!!